Throughout history people always has been had a big misunderstanding about loneliness and depression. They think lonelier the person more depress he/she is. The basic assumption is that no respectable person could ever feel isolated – unless they had just moved country or been widowed.
The truth is a high degree of loneliness is an inexorable part of being a sensitive, intelligent human. It’s a built-in feature of a complex existence. So since your childhood if you are a loner, then it’s okay you to be that way.
There are several reasons for, why people choose to stay alone. Let’s see them one by one.
1. Have a different opinions and ideology than regular world
No doubt human beings are social animals. We like stay in group and share our ideas. But many of the ideas in the recesses of lonely people’s mind are too odd, contrary, subtle or alarming to be safely revealed to anyone else. So for the sake of their and society’s safety and reputation, they choose to stay quiet about it.
2. Want to stay focus on relevant matters
Most of the time when we communicate with others, the 90% of conversation we have, has no meaning. Though others are okay with it, loners find it wastage of time. Also it takes a lot of energy to listen to another person and enter sympathetically into their experiences, so loners want to avoid it as much as possible. It doesn’t make them a bad person. They just want keep focus on what they find meaningful and logical.
3. Different perception towards life
We all know, we come to this world alone and goes out of it alone. Though to others it sounds depressing, to loners it makes a lot of sense. So they try to live their life in that manner. Loners feel that, they are out on the ocean drowning in the swell and others are standing on the shore, ignorantly waving cheerily.
4. Have no hopes to find right connections
It’s not arrogance but lonely people are most certain that, they will never meet the people best qualified to understand them. They think, even if they walk past such person in the street, neither of them will have a slightest idea of the potential for connection, so it’s best to live with what we have and try to make most of it.
Loneliness and depression are two different things. So if you are genuinely okay with being a loner then don’t feel bad for yourself. You might be one of those gems, who born once in century. Concentrate on your work, let it speaks for itself. Then may be tomorrow’s world will fully understand you.